Heteronormativity is the set of cultural and social norms that encourage heterosexuality (and cisgenderism and monogamy) as "normal", while strongly discouraging other sexual attractions and behaviours as "abnormal".
Expanding this concept to specifically acknowledge that heteronormativity necessitates gender conformity leads to the more complete term "cisheteronormativity" (though quite a mouthful!).
"Observations of primates and isolated tribes suggest that humans’ patriarchal order may have evolved by accident rather than out of evolutionary necessity. From there, it is easy to see how social norms have ensured that men and women are groomed into separate, gendered roles. By giving dolls to girls and trucks to boys, notes Ms Saini, “we feed our babies fantasies in pink or blue.” Infants have no innate preference for either. But they respond positively to what makes their caregivers happy."
Transhomomisogyny is the converse of cisheteronormativity. If cisheteronormativity reflects the ways in which society rewards expressions of identity that conform to cisgender and heterosexual narratives, then transhomomisogyny reflects the ways society punishes all narratives straying from a cisheteropatriarchal supremacy.
Fear of gay people.
Hatred of gay people.
(TW: This essay contains descriptions of childhood sexual predation, homomisic slurs)
- "I thought my father hated me, but now I believe he was just doing what he thought fathers did to toughen up their sons. In an unintended way, he succeeded. I learned early on what life could be like for boys like me, and acted accordingly. But it also made me vulnerable. Burying everything left me open to strangers who could dig it up with leering looks. I knew they could harm me, but at least they would not reject me because I was “that way.”
- This kind of fear made so many boys like me easy prey for men who knew we could not and would not say anything. I was more afraid of being found out than of being harmed, and these secret feelings had been welling up inside of me with nowhere to go. I’d gotten the looks before, and the smiles, but no one had ever approached like this man at the bus stop. Men like him were hiding, just like I was. We could keep company and I could learn from them all the things I needed to know.
- At 15, I thought it might be easier and better to be used by grown strangers than to play out my crush on the guy who sat near me in math class."
(coming soon, see also Transphobia)
Also 'queermisia' to reflect specifically the hatred of queer people, as opposed to the fear (-phobia) of queerness.